After how many dates should you be exclusive

Monogamy isn't for everyone, but for those who want it, becoming exclusive with a dating partner is a big step.

This relationship milestone often comes with labels and conversations that begin with "What are we?" It makes some people nervous, and it can feel like a complex topic to broach.

When it comes to becoming exclusive, when do you bring it up?

What do you say?

How long do you date before becoming boyfriend/girlfriend

Having a plan can be helpful. But before you get ready to discuss it with your significant other, ask yourself the following questions:

Questions to ask before becoming exclusive 

Why do I want to commit to this person? Our reason for wanting to be exclusive matters.

If the reason is rooted in our fear of ending up alone or our insecurity that the person will want to be with someone else unless we lock them in, exclusivity is not the "solution." A decision to be exclusive should be driven by our genuine desire to get to know this person in a specific – exclusive – context.

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